Whenever I see immature and insecure people rushing to marry, I shake my head in pity.
And majority of poor couples suffering in poverty today should not have married, because if you cannot afford three square meals and cannot pay the school fees for good functional education for your children and cannot afford to pay medical bills for their quality health care, PLEASE I beg you in the name of everything that is good, DON'T MARRY to save yourself and the rest of your family and community from the miseries of a dysfunctional marriage and dysfunctional family caused by your financial insecurity.
Marriage of convenience is the most common marriage in Nigeria today and such marriages need prayers to last.
Most people in these parts marry from insecurity..
Majority marry from peer pressure.
But they forget that God did not create you to impress your peers. But to fulfill your destiny.
Others marry just to have children to bear their last name and that is their greatest achievement on earth, even if their children are liabilities and public nuisance like majority of the children of the poor who in most cases worsen the problems of the society, because they have immature and insecure parents.
Parents who never had good parenting and so cannot be good parents themselves.
The root of the widespread poverty and insecurity in Nigeria and other poor countries is useless marriages. Because, any couple that cannot guarantee three square meals, functional good education and good healthcare for their children, should not marry until they can do so.
The stupidity of poor couples rushing to marry and make babies in abject poverty is a social malaise.
That is why you see the widespread poverty jeopardizing the lives of millions of innocent children like the ones on the 'Okada" motorbike shown in the picture above.
To me the most evil and wicked people on earth are couples who bring innocent children to suffer the misery of their poverty.
It is stupid and wicked to have children you suffer gladly as you put them in great disadvantages of life in a dog eat dog capitalist society.
If you are poor, PLEASE, DON'T MARRY and save innocent children from the misery of your own failures.
You complain and whine about lack of money to pay rent.
Lack of enough money to feed well.
Lack of enough money to pay school fees.
Lack of enough money to pay medical bills and so on.
But only fools will breed kids they cannot feed.
I remember that my father sent me to the famous St. Gregory's College in Lagos when it was a private and prestigious secondary school in the late 1970s and he never failed to pay my school fees until I left and would have been able to pay my fees to St Aldates College, Oxford, if not for his protracted terminal illness.
He always shopped for us at the popular Kingsway shopping mall on the Marina in Lagos.
We had more than three square meals every day.
So, couples who are still struggling to make ends meet, should never marry.
Marriage is not by force.
And if increasing the population of poor people in the world is an achievement to you, then you are insane.
Many girls who are not secure and not sure of their future marry as a safety net.
But I prefer every Nigerian girl or woman to be Miss Independent of the African American singer Neyo in class and career before getting married.
A marriage is not a job or a way to escape from insecurity.
The world is still suffering from the horrible and terrible consequences of dysfunctional marriages of dysfunctional families, so don't worsen the miseries of poverty plaguing humanity.
Let only those who are truly intellectually and financially ready marry.
~ By Ekenyerengozi Michael Chima, author of Children of Heaven, Scarlet Tears of London, Bye, Bye Mugabe, In the House of Dogs, Diary of the Memory Keeper, The Prophet Lied, co-author of Naked Beauty, editor of The Language of True Love and Publisher/Editor of NOLLYWOOD MIRROR® SERIES.
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